Being in a healthy relationship means:
- Respecting individuality, embracing differences, and allowing each person to “be him/herself.”
- Discussing things, allowing for differences of opinion, and compromising equally.
- Expressing and listening to each others’ feelings, needs, and desires.
- Trusting and being honest with yourself and each other.
- Resolving conflicts in a rational, peaceful, and mutually agreed-upon way.
Other Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship
Accepting responsibility, behaviors, and attitudes
Admitting mistakes (or being wrong)
Accepting the fact that everyone makes mistakes
Refusing to intimidate or manipulate
Respecting physical space
Expressing self nonviolently and honestly
Always using a nonviolent approach to resolving conflict
Understanding that conflict and anger are okay
Respect for each person’s sexual boundaries
Recognizing and respecting each person’s individual rights
Accepting each other’s word
Giving the benefit of the doubt
Willingness to tell your partner what you need or want
Joy and playfulness
Asking, not expecting
Making decisions together
Being willing to compromise
Seeking mutually satisfying resolutions to conflict
Equality in decision making
Supporting each other’s choices
Shared respect for each other’s values
Communicating openly and truthfully
Willingness to honestly discuss problems
- Unhealthy Relationships Guideline for LGBTQ People of Color
- Healthy Relationships Guideline for LGBTQ People of Color
This project was supported by Grant No. 2015-WA-AX-0024 awarded by the Office on Violence Against Women, U.S. Department of Justice. The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this publication/program/exhibition are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the Department of Justice, Office on Violence Against Women.