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Below are a series of statistics and facts regarding domestic violence, dating violence, and stalking.  A Red Flag is a term used to describe warning signs in a dating or domestic relationship.

Over 50% of female victims and more than 30% of male victims of stalking indicated that they were stalked before the age of 25. (Black et al., 2011)

A Red Flag includes a partner who installs spyware to monitor your online activity. (The SAFE Alliance)

A Red Flag includes a partner constantly checking up on you in person, through text, or through social media. (The SAFE Alliance)

66% of female victims and 41% of male victims of stalking are stalked by a current or former intimate partner (Black et al. 2011)

21% of college students report having experienced dating violence by a current partner (National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, 2007)

Stalking is a pattern of behavior that makes you feel afraid, nervous, harassed, or in danger. Red Flags for stalking can include:

  • Waiting for the victim
  • Leaving unwanted presents
  • Following or spying on the victim
  • Knowing your schedule
  • Showing up at places you go
  • Calling or texting repeatedly
  • (Department of Justice, 2006)


Red Flags in a relationship may include:

  • Feeling tied down and like you have to check-in with your partner
  • Finding yourself worrying about obsessing about how to please your partner and keep them happy.
  • A fear of disagreement
  • Physical attacks
  • Attempts to isolate
  • Emotional abuse followed by being told you are loved
  • Telling yourself that if you just try harder and love your partner enough, that everything will be fine
  • (YWCA & Domestic Abuse Project, 2016)


Red Flags in a relationship may include a partner who:

  • Is always angry at someone or something
  • Doesn’t listen to you or show interest in your feelings
  • Abuses alcohol or other drugs
  • Takes your money or takes advantage of you
  • Accuses you of flirting or cheating on them
  • Lies to you
  • Blames all arguments and problems on you
  • Tells you how to dress or act
  • Threatens suicide if you break up with them
  • YWCA & Domestic Abuse Project, 2016)

This project was supported by Grant No. 2015-WA-AX-0024 awarded by the Office on Violence Against Women, U.S. Department of Justice. The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this publication/program/exhibition are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the Department of Justice, Office on Violence Against Women.